I want an honest assessment of how I show up in our conversations and how that shapes what you give me back. This is for self-knowledge, not reassurance. Write the uncomfortable version where it's the honest one.

Before you assess me, tell me how much conversation history you actually have to draw on. If it's thin, say so - the assessment that follows is only as good as the data behind it, and I'd rather have an honest "I don't know yet" than a confident answer built from too little.

Then, drawing on specific exchanges where you can:

How do I read on cognitive capacity, and where have I shown the limits of it?

How do I read on emotional capacity - both fortitude (can I absorb hard pushback) and receptivity (do I actually update on it)? These are different things and you may have been conflating them. Show me where I take the punch without changing, and where I genuinely shift.

Which of my recurring topics are loaded - with identity, sunk cost, or unresolved doubt - and how does my emotional capacity drop on those specifically?

Then, the harder question: how have you been calibrating around me, and what would you show me differently if you weren't? Where have you been softening, hedging, or accepting framings you'd otherwise have pushed on, because of who you've read me to be?

Close by naming the one thing I could change about how I work with you that would most improve what comes out of the collaboration. One thing, not several, and defend the pick.